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The anecdotes had similar themes. A
married couple with children. The mar-
riage falls apart…nobody’s fault in par-
ticular. She gets a lawyer and suddenly
alleges that she’s been abused – it’s not
true, but it means that he has to leave
the home, has hardly any rights and
can’t see the kids.
They divorce. He has to pay a lot of
money in support, even though she’s
already with another man and doing
very well financially. He now lives in a
basement apartment. He’s allowed to
see the kids every second weekend and
one night a week. But often, she says
that they’re not well or she’s just not
there when he goes to pick the children
up. After repeated pleas, he shouts and
bangs on the door. She calls the police,
he’s arrested, convicted, put on proba-
tion and humiliated. I heard this type of
story countless times.
Or how about the couple who argue
and hit each other, or she hits him and
he does nothing. The cops come and
only he is arrested. Don’t expect sympa-
thy or fairness from the police and judg-
es – this is political law now and they
are terrified of finding against a woman
accuser. I even heard of police officers
apologizing to the men whom they ar-
rested and explaining that, while they
knew that no crime had been commit-
ted, they had no option but to arrest.
Or men having to pay extremely high
levels of alimony, even when the man
is poor and the woman is now wealthy.
Men lied about, assumed to be in the
wrong, treated like a natural abuser.
The ritual humiliation, the night in a
cell, the fortune paid to lawyers for no
legitimate reason, the agony of not see-
ing one’s children and knowing that
they are being turned against you, the
Earlier this year, Queen’s University
student and feminist activist Danielle
d’Entremont was punched multiple
times in the face by a stranger. Danielle
links the hideous attack to her opposi-
tion to an event being hosted on the
Kingston, Ontario campus by the men’s
rights group, Canadian Association
for Equality (CAFE). The group has
just offered a $1,000 reward to bring
Danielle’s attacker to justice, and other
men’s groups have joined in trying to
find the assailant.
Frankly, I have no idea whether the re-
pulsive crime was politically motivated
or not, and neither does the victim nor
CAFE. The greater point, however, is
that groups such as CAFE are tired of
contemporary feminism marginalizing
and libeling men. Rather than feminists
being the victims, they argue, it is men
who are victimized in modern society.
Are they correct? I didn’t think so un-
til a few years ago, when I was asked
to write a men’s column for the Globe
and Mail. What I encountered was evi-
dence of a campaign to discredit men
and a legal and sociological struggle
to remove their rights as husbands and
partners and, in particular, fathers. Of
course, there are men who are extrem-
ists and see gender attacks around eve-
ry corner, but that doesn’t obscure the
greater point that there is a great deal
of suffering out there.
I’m very lucky, in a happy marriage with
a wonderful wife and four great kids. I
have never been a victim. As soon as
I began to write the Globe column,
however, I was inundated with stories
of men, good men, who had lost their
homes, their savings, their freedomand
their children, after false and malicious
Michael Coren
grandparents forbidden to see their
grandchildren because their son is the
Yes, I know that you’ve heard all of the
stories about abusive men, women vic-
tims and deadbeat dads and, of course,
some of that is true and it’s horrible
and must be dealt with, but it simply
does not occur with anywhere near the
frequency that we have been told to
believe. Domestic violence is an open
wound in the public body, but society
is aware and much is done. Men who
refuse to pay child support are obscene,
but the vast majority of men do pay and,
anyway, could not refuse even if they
wanted to do so.
Almost all of the feminist movement’s
demands were granted (and rightly so)
decades ago and, while there is clearly
work still to be done, we do not live
in the 1890s. Now we have feminists
silencing contrary speech on campus,
women’s studies courses that waste
minds and money and feminist law that
denies equality. If you doubt me, you
are living in denial. It’s enough to make
you cry, but then real men don’t
do that, do they.